Ending the “I Know I Should…” Conversation

So, now you know how to be SMART!  Let’s keep that conversation going…


Between my work with Wellness Corporate Solutions and my own clients, I wish I had a dime for every time I hear the words “I know I should…”. And if I had a quarter for every time I’ve said them? Well, I’d send us all on a retreat to shut us up and enjoy some “Do it Now!” moments instead.

Rock-climbing in Thailand? Yoga in Costa Rica? Hiking in Peru?
We have some options!


There is more information “out there” circling the web than any of us need – we can self-diagnose on WebMD, for better or worse, and we can look up nutrition facts and track our intake, exercise, sleep habits and stress levels on a lot of different platforms. There are pages that tell us how much money we should be saving, or where we should be in a career by now, or all the ways that someone else has failed and succeeded in ways that we may never be able, or want, to imagine.

We end up with a lot of “I Know I SHOULD…” thoughts,
and not a lot of action.

Goals usually come from a place of that “should” attitude, and part of the achievement process is getting to that “will”…

Truth be told, you can’t replace that “should” with “will” until you’re ready and prepared and already past the mental point where that change is exciting, not just daunting. Then, you just have to start.

We often tell clients to think ahead –
How do you want to feel one year from now?


What works for me? Well, I get a great slap of reality every time I coach someone to make a change, and consequently go through the process with them. I’m reminded of the things I’m thinking I should be doing. I’m lucky that my work, life and passions have intertwined themselves like that.

But outside of coaching, the things that go from should –> will are the ones we put out there. TELL SOMEBODY WHAT YOU SHOULD/WANT TO DO.

Clearly I feel pretty strongly about that, but it makes all the difference in the world. Welcome to the Law of Attraction – put your ideas out there, telling as many people as is appropriate as often as you think about it. (Warning: friends and family, repeat conversations to follow.) The ways and means will follow.

“The truth will follow us and poke at us
until we acknowledge it.”  -Baron Baptiste

I want to/should/will get a fitness coaching certification, so a friend started sending me updates on workshops available and my coworkers have offered help with the ACSM courses.

I want to/should/will travel abroad this year, so experienced people have offered up tips on places to go, where to stay, and helpful travel sites to bookmark.

I want to/should/will do yoga teacher training – I got called out (ahem, tagged) on Facebook recently as a friend kindly posted that there’s an upcoming info session at our favorite studio.

NOTED, world. I hear you & I’m listening.


End the internal monologue. Know the difference between the shoulds you want and those you don’t – put the good-for-you ones out there, be ready, and watch the world work its magic.


  1. February 12, 2013

    Thanks for setting such a great example by turning your “I shoulds” into “I wills”! It’s inspiring.

  2. I just did a WCS event and had so many people say this very phrase! You nailed it.

  3. February 12, 2013

    so true! unless i really WANT to, i won’t. No need to hang onto it unless i am proactive and do it!

  4. February 13, 2013

    Thank you for this post! So many goals that you WILL accomplish!

  5. February 13, 2013

    Beautiful. Dreams are goals without a plan.

    It’s true that you could really take more advice that you give others. Sometimes you are your toughest competition.

    I just finished reading an excerpt from Michael Pollan. So I say I need to eat less processed food and really will do! Baby steps:)

  6. February 13, 2013

    Turning “I shoulds” into “I wants” and “I wills” are some of the hardest things to do in life. As an RD, I hear the same things from patients/clients as well. It’s amazing that we all want to treat ourselves well but we often do the opposite out of laziness, fear or habit.

    I like being an RD that can coach someone to be as motivated to do nice things for themselves as they do for others. As someone in a helping profession, I can relate to that mindset and find it works well for so many people.

  7. Great post! It has me thinking a lot about goal setting and setting firm deadlines for those goals. I just stumbled on your blog, but I’m really looking forward at how you reach your goals, since some of mine are similar. (I’d like to be a certified running coach and yoga instructor.) Good luck! 🙂

  8. February 21, 2013

    This was a very inspirational read 🙂

  9. March 8, 2013

    Love this.

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