When I started my private practice, I was beginning to learn the official principles of Intuitive Eating. I knew a little bit, but not enough to feel confident incorporating it in my nutrition counseling. I had to change that in order to be the kind of dietitian I wanted to be—an anti-diet dietitian— to practice what I think is true. Nutrition and weight loss do not always walk hand-in-hand; diets do not work; learning to honor your body’s intuitive hunger and satiety cues will save your relationship with food. If you learn to practice Intuitive Eating, maybe you’ll lose weight, maybe you won’t. I can’t predict that. I can’t promise you anything, so I won’t.
While I’ve worked with clients 1:1 for years, that find me here on this site (as a reader or podcast listener), I needed another avenue to meet new people. My private practice needed to grow. I partnered with a gym in Arlington, and voila! A cute nutrition office, face-to-face interactions, new friends, a place to teach yoga—all the things! What I had not fully anticipated was the diet culture that comes with a gym. This is NOT specific to this gym; they worked hard to teach people health from every angle. That’s why I partnered with them in the first place. (Also, they’re good people.)
We started with a nutrition open-house at the gym on a wintery Saturday morning. I met with people for 20-minute drive-by sessions, introducing them to my style and my expertise. You can’t cover much in 20 minutes! You certainly can’t cover the ten principles of Intuitive Eating, especially when that’s not what clients came to hear. To be honest, you can’t even cover them in a one hour session. That’s not how it works.
Julie Dillon and I talked about this early Intuitive Eating counseling phase on episode 13 of RD Real Talk. You start on the fence, with a foot on both sides—you want to help people with their goals (i.e. weight loss), you want clients to continue working with you, they assume you’ll help them lose weight (as the primary goal and focus), you want to be a weight-neutral, diet-free dietitian. HOW DO THOSE THINGS MIX? It’s not as simple as putting them all in a pot and stirring it up. But stir the pot, you certainly will.
Real talk: I won’t tell you, as a client, to lose weight.
I am an anti-diet (or non-diet) dietitian.
That means I won’t put you on a diet to lose weight, or improve your health. It means I won’t give you a weight loss goal, or low-calorie meal ideas, or consider your body weight a measure of your health (or worth). As Evelyn Tribole put it on Rebecca Scritchfield’s Body Kindness podcast, “Dieting is unethical.” The research shows that dieting doesn’t work. It increases the likelihood of weight gain. It often leads to food obsession, cravings, emotional eating, and weight gain cycles. It distracts us from our body’s true (intuitive) hunger and satiety cues, because instead of listening to those intuitive signals, we follow the diet’s rules. It can take weeks, months, and sometimes years to reverse the effects (and mindset) of chronic dieting.
Clients usually don’t want to hear that.
They are used to hearing the diet messages; they expect dietitians to give them rules, a safety box of measurements and calorie control, the guidelines that will keep them “disciplined.” I sometimes receive a confused look when I explained why diets and food rules not my style. But, it also took me a while to have the confidence to say, “That’s not my style.”
I have that confidence now, to say first and foremost, before the session really begins, “I am a non-diet dietitian. I am anti-dieting. Here’s why…” And, what do ya know, people listen. They’re open minded. They came to me, the dietitian, for guidance. They had an expectation (don’t we all). It wasn’t met; but that’s neither a failed experience nor a successful one. It’s different.
It’s different than the media messages we consume every day.
It’s different than the diet messages we’ve read for decades. It’s different than the diets that have “worked” in the past, but failed clients so many times over. So, in many cases, it can be both refreshing and terrifying. I get that. I’ve been there.
Anti-diet dietitians put many aspects of our formal education aside, making room for a different evidence-based approach.
This approach is one that works for the long term. It’s one that involves getting back to our body’s intuition, listening to it, and honoring it. One that does incorporate nutrition science—macronutrients and micronutrients, improving health with food, activity, and stress management, not with the one-stop-shop-weight-loss approach. It gives us permission to eat all foods, not just the “good ones.” It encourages pleasure, mindfulness, joyful movement, and self-trust. It encourages you to experiment with food, and notice how it makes you feel. It doesn’t require good, or clean, or fat-free, or whole, or raw, or natural foods.
I can’t say for sure that all anti-diet dietitians believe in, and teach, Intuitive Eating. I do. Most of the RDs who have inspired me to learn more about this philosophy, and incorporate it in my work, also do. There are no rules to this approach, which may make it confusing for consumers. So if one thing is clear after you’ve read this post, I hope it is this: Diets don’t work. An anti-diet dietitian won’t put you on a diet, and they don’t assume your weight is the sole measure of your health. If that sounds like both a refreshing and necessary shift for your mind and body, you’re in the right place.